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What is prostate massaging?
If you’re straight – you’ve probably spent a considerable amount of time studying the female G-spot: How to find it, how to stimulate it and how to turn a woman into jelly with a G-spot orgasm. What most men are far less familiar with is their own male G-spot called the P-Spot. That’s right; be surprised to learn that the prostate is, basically, the male equivalent of a woman’s G-spot and by stimulating the prostate gland, guys can achieve immense pleasure. Some men use this spot to achieve multiple orgasms, and other men both straight, gay and otherwise can use anal/prostate stimulation to achieve orgasm and ejaculation without any penile stimulation! This stimulation can be caused by anal intercourse but more popular is actually by prostate massaging which more people find comfortable. Using a specific toy to massage and stimulate the gland will get you the best results and with enough practice can result in a mind blowing orgasm.
How to do it?
Before you do anything, it can be helpful for you to urinate and have a bowel movement as this will cleanse you and make it feel a lot more comfortable, especially when you mentally know you won’t poo even though you feel like you are going too. After passing, you should wait at least an hour for any remaining matter to be absorbed. Over time, the more you engage in prostate play you will be aware of when your body is and is not capable and which times are appropriate. Remember to trim and cut your fingernails, having them too long can scratch and possible tear the inner lining of your anus. Being relaxed is also very important, as it helps minimize and prevent the possibility of tearing the thin lining of the rectum and sets the stage for pleasure. Remember that the sphincter muscle is an involuntary muscle and that if you are stressed, tired or otherwise distracted it may not matter how keen you are on playing, the muscles will simply not co-operate. Taking a nice warm bath or even a sensual massage using lubricant or massage oil are great ways to become relaxed.
Now that you are relaxed and ready to start, the next step is to locate your ‘P-spot”, it isn’t that tough to locate, indeed for the most part you have most likely been stimulating it without you even realizing. Not only are you stimulating it with each thrust that you make, but as you can see from previous diagrams, the prostate is located behind the perineum or gooch. Many people stimulate this area with a finger during masturbation. Obviously the best way to stimulate it is internally but this way does require a little patience. Lying on your back is usually to be the most comfortable position for this, so you’ll perhaps want to make use of the bed or maybe a large sofa. Elevating your legs will make the process easier and can be done by simply leaning your legs against the wall behind the bed or draping them over the back of the sofa.
If you’re still having difficulty reaching the perineum from this position, you can lift your pelvis further by sliding a pillow or two underneath – or if you happen to have some sex furniture such as the Liberator range you can use that as well. The liberator range is designed at the optimal angles for sex.
Once you’ve made yourself as comfortable as possible, start by gently massaging the area surrounding your anus. This next step is very important, apply lube. Applying nice silky silicone lube (ill delve into the best lubes and creams in a separate section), the lube will help relax the muscles and make it much easier and more comfortable insertion. Most men enjoy having their perineum stimulated, and that can definitely be merged into this process. Use the soft pad of your index finger while exploring, and gently brush across the surface of your anus. Repeat this move several times, each time increasing the pressure slightly. When you’re comfortable enough to begin probing, you should keep things slow and tender, remembering to relax your sphincter during the process. This part can take the most time, so you need to be patient at this point. Begin by slowly inserting your finger into the ass and slowly massage in little tiny circles as you place pressure. The sphincter muscles may not open at first so if you’re clenching you need to consciously let go and relax. If you can’t relax then this is obviously not a good time and you need to disengage the play and try another day.
If the sphincter opens up – then insert the finger as far as it’ll go and then bend it towards the front and reach for the base of the penis. You’ll notice when you’ve come in contact with the ’p-spot’, as you’ll recognize it as a small, firm and smooth bump situated roughly two inches inward.
As you prepare to stimulate your prostate, keep in mind that methods can vary greatly. Some men enjoy gentle thrusting movements, and some prefer intense, constant pressure on the prostate itself but might prefer a mix of the two or rather something entirely different. The key is to give your body the chance to react and respond, just take your time, the orgasm is worth it. It’s also important to note that you may not find any of these methods pleasurable during the first experience, and that’s certainly normal; you can always try again in the future.
Though fingers are great way to locate the “p-spot” they are also amazing for beginners to learn and get used to something being up there. Training the brain to think its normal and becomes used to your fingers is the first step, second step is find what pressure you like by pushing slightly harder and softer, and thirdly figure out what motion you like, whether that be round circular motions or even up and down wavy motions. Now fingers aren’t the only thing you can use to stimulate the prostate, toys are an amazing step up from our simplistic fingers. You have toys that vibrate and some that don’t and there are different ways to use each one. For example, some non-vibrating toys are completely hands free like the Aneros Helix Syn. To use these types of toys properly, you get into you most comfortable position (the one I mentioned before is recommended) and lube up the toy, don’t skimp out on it either make sure its clearly coated. Once its ready you can insert the toy, once you are about 2/3rds in your anal muscles will pull the rest in. At this point keep your hands off and don’t use them again until you’re ready to remove it.
Now, here comes the good part. Activate your pelvic muscles, then relax them. It should feel like you’re “lifting” your groin area from the inside. The sensation is comparable to when you are urinating, and then force yourself to stop. This technique relaxes and contracts the exact same muscle group. This is the action that makes it do its thing. Keep doing this until the orgasms come. This can take as little as 5 minutes or as many as 45. Obviously, with practice, one can speed the process up.
With vibrating toys, they usually are manually operated and have to be pointed in the right direction which is perfect for men with a little bit of experience in prostate play or for men who know their body really well. To properly use a vibrating toy, you need to start of course prep the toy with lube and start it on a low vibration, slowly insert and position it so the tip is rubbing on the prostate, after about a minute or so you can start increasing the intensity levels a little higher and gently rub on the area in a circle or wavy motion and apply a little more pressure. Keep stimulating the prostate and listen to what your body wants and react accordingly until you reach climax.
Does it hurt much?
For some even getting their finger through the gates is a big challenge and very painful let alone a toy. If this is the case, then I recommend reading on about some lubes and creams that might make your life a little easier.
Numbing cream isn’t anything new, it’s been around for a while to help bring ease to those that experience too much pain. What it does is when applied to the rim of the anus it numbs the nerve endings there to make insertion and anal play much easier. Problem though is when your anus is numbed you can’t feel if you might actually be damaging your anus. So creams like ‘Analease” should only be used by the experienced and not for rough play. Thankfully there are alternatives like ‘pjurs backdoor serum and spray’ which is a desensitizer that comes as a spray or oil and what it does is desensitizes and relaxes the anal muscles in the opening to make it much easier for things to be inserted. Because it doesn’t numb the areas (only relaxes and desensitizes) it completely safe to be used by all. Your best friend here is relaxation, the more you relax and just ride it, the easier it will be. Remember not to over-use these creams and sprays. Pain is the body’s natural defense mechanism and to remove that safety mechanism can mean that you can unconsciously do damage without realizing it at the time. So use sparingly and only when needed.
Another option to help with the pain or discomfort and even to prepare your anus for larger items is using a device to dilate the anus. There are many ways to perform anal dilation but the easiest and most common is using different sized butt plugs to slowly increase the size. Speculums are also option for those who are experience with anal play and want to work up towards bigger toys. Safety is also a big thing when it comes to anal dilation, if not done properly or too quickly, or with toys not recommended for the job then you might obtain an anal fissure which is not the most pleasant of things. Ensure any insertables and smooth and of an appropriate size and shape.